ships etc.

Friday, October 24, 2014

scenes from a long, long oceanside walk with my big guy, my very ships etc.sweet guy ... Samuel

If you really want to know what you are capable of achieving, you must be willing to live without the opinions of other people. Iyanla Vanzant

the four agreements

Sunday, October 19, 2014

Samuel on the crescent beach / rose hips / the meadow on the way to the crescent beach / queen anne's lace still blooming / I love green / Atlantic Rock crab / alyssum 

Don't Take Anything Personally

Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won't be the victim of needless suffering.

We take things personally when we agree with what others have said. If we didn't agree, the things that others say would not affect us emotionally. If we didn't care about what others think about us, their words or behaviour could not affect us. Even if someone yells at you, gossips about you, harms you or yours, it still is not about you! Their actions and words are based on what they believe in their personal dream. 

Our personal “Book of Law” and belief system makes us feel safe. When people have beliefs that are different from our own, we get scared, defend ourselves, and impose our point of view on others. If someone gets angry with us it is because our belief system is challenging their belief system and they get scared. They need to defend their point of view. Why become angry, create conflict, and expend energy arguing when you are aware of this? Don Miguel Ruiz - The Four Agreements

I had to get my well worn, dog eared copy of this fantastic book The Four Agreements to remind myself once again not to take the actions, words & behaviours of the mean people of this world personally ... not saying it's easy

bullies & silver linings

Friday, October 17, 2014

the ocean / bees & lavender / coleus / handsome, handsome Sam / a crow welcoming us onto the boardwalk / petunias / seaweed & barnacles / a long walk on the beach with my big guy / Oliver & cosmos bright lights

Remember that an act of hatred belittles the one who acts it out - but not the one it is done against unless that person allows it to. Each person who reaches out in love grows a bit himself even when the love appears to be refused. Dixie Dawn Miller Goode

I've been dealing with bullies, adult bullies - even worse than that adult bullies who are neighbours (relatively new to this little village). People who have a reputation and one that preceded their move, of being mean and nasty. Even though I know their bullying behaviour is directed at many, many people I'm still shocked and honestly a bit ashamed at how much their meanness bothers me, hurts me & takes over my thoughts - turning into a kind of non-stop obsessive rumination ?!? I'm currently reading Tara Brach's book* True Refuge: Finding Peace & Freedom in Your Own Awakened Heart, WOW ! it's helping so much to teach me how to "let that shit go" and especially how to not make it personal - when it feels nothing but.

The silver lining in situations like this one is the reminder to treat everyone with kindness & compassion especially the bullies of the world ... that said I am counting the days until I move to Lunenburg and say my final goodbye !! to Mr & Mrs Mean.
If they don't like you for being yourself, be yourself even more. Taylor Swift

* I love this book SO much I've ordered a copy for myself, it's a book you want to have beside your bed for these angsty moments and a book you want to write notes in & highlite whole paragraphs.